We've all done it. We've all gone on dates and pulled the "friend-of-a-friend" line when that is really code for "I met him online." The wonderful world of online dating! Dating in the big city is hard to say the least.
Caving In...
Meeting people online is becoming more and more the norm and you hear tons of success stories (you also hear a lot of my personal fav "have you tried online dating?") about Match.com, Eharmony, etc. So, you start to think 'hmm, I should try this out and see what happens.'
Good on Paper
You sign up and start getting matched with people who seem like they are great. You notice that you actually do have a lot in common - you both like to travel, you both like football, you both want kids, you're both "sick of the dating scene" etc. etc. Hell, your signs might even say you are a good fit, if you are into that type of thing. Even the pictures of this person look promising! Now you start to communicate with this person through the website and everything he is saying sounds amazing to you. He or she is very fun and exciting and sound like they have a good sensible head on their shoulders.
The Meeting
After a few times of emails back and forth, you figure out when and where to finally meet. First of all, please always do this in public places and don't let him try to pick you up. Just bad news all around (Okay, I've seen too many Lifetime movies, but still...). You finally meet and for some reason the spark that you thought was going to happen just does not exist at all. Sure, the conversation is nice, and it gives you something to do, but the entire time you're thinking about what the hell you missed in his profile that would have told you that this guy was just one big dud! Frustrating, right?
Examine the Profile
Here are a few things that I have learned throughout my years of listening to everyone's online dating stories, as well as my own saga. You have to go through these profiles with a fine toothed comb!!! I mean every single line and every single picture. If you look closely at these pictures and notice something off, then something probably is. I used to tell myself that I was just being extra picky and to calm down, but then I realized that my gut was always right! If you read something that sounds a little odd to you, then don't even bother communicating. Chances are, again, you are right!
Happy Dating!
